Did You Know Loneliness Makes You Cold?

Thursday, December 11th, 2008

Loneliness and coldness are often associated in everyday language, but psychologists have found that social isolation does make people feel cold.

The University of Toronto team found people feeling excluded said a room was colder than those feeling included.  And people who felt left out also chose comforting hot soup, rather than an apple or soft drink.  A UK psychologist said the findings could help people feeling isolated, particularly in the winter months.

‘Unpopular’

In the first study, 65 students were divided into two groups.  One group recalled a personal experience in which they had been socially excluded and felt isolated or lonely, such as being rejected from a club.  The other group recalled an experience in which they had been accepted.  The researchers then asked everyone to estimate the room’s temperature.  The estimates varied from about 54F (12C) to 104F (40C) – with those who had thought about an isolating experience giving lower estimates of the temperature.  In the second experiment, the researchers asked 52 students to play a computer-simulated ball game.  It was designed so that some of the volunteers had the ball tossed to them many times, but others were left out.  Afterwards, all the volunteers were asked to rate the desirability of hot coffee, crackers, soft-drinks, an apple, or hot soup.  The “unpopular” participants were much more likely than the others to want either hot soup or hot coffee.  The researchers suggest their preference for warm food and drinks resulted from physically feeling cold as a result of being excluded.

‘Coping mechanism’

Dr Chen-Bo Zhong, who led the research, which is published in the journal Psychological Science, said: “We found that the experience of social exclusion literally feels cold.  “This may be why people use temperature-related metaphors to describe social inclusion and exclusion.”

Some evidence supports the idea that reduced temperature also contributes to an increase in depressive experience (University of Toronto researchers)

The team suggests the findings could be used to treat people’s feelings of sadness or loneliness.  Writing in the journal, published by the American Association of Psychological Science, they say: “An interesting direction for research would be to determine whether experiencing the warmth of an object could reduce the negative experience of social exclusion.  “Such an implication has been used metaphorically in the self-help literature, but our research suggests that eating warm soup may be a literal coping mechanism for social exclusion.”  They also suggest that raising the temperature could help someone who is feeling low – in the same way that people with seasonal affective disorder (SAD) are helped with light therapy.

They added: “Research on this disorder has predominantly focused on the connection between reduced daylight and increased likelihood of winter depression, although some evidence supports the idea that reduced temperature also contributes to an increase in depressive experience.  “Our research suggests one reason why that may be. Perhaps cold temperatures in the winter serve as a catalyst to the psychological experience of social exclusion.  “Dr Lesley Prince, a lecturer in psychology at Birmingham University, said: “This is very interesting, and shows there are physiological correlates to emotions.”  He added: “I particularly like the idea that if people are feeling despondent or lonely, you could help them feel better by putting the temperature up.”

- Story from BBC NEWS:
http://news.bbc.co.uk/go/pr/fr/-/2/hi/health/7635423.stm
Published: 2008/09/27 23:49:14 GMT
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Your 17 – 19 Year Old & You!

Tuesday, November 18th, 2008

Your Relationship with Your Kids!

  • Despite transformations in parent-child relationships across the transition to adolescence, parents remain influential in their children’s lives.”

  • “Adolescents look to their friends for advice on fashion or music and they turn to their parents for guidance on moral issues.”

  • Adolescents perceive parents as one of the most accurate sources of information about dating, compared to peers or romantic partners.
  • Adolescents anticipate parents’ reactions before taking action.

  • Parents’ communication of clear expectations regarding appropriate dating behaviors is likely to influence adolescents’ subsequent decisions.

  • Most parents (64%) reported using dating rules, which varied by the adolescents and parents’ gender, for their 17-19 year olds. And more than a quarter of the families in this sample reported that establishing supervisory dating rules was a process that jointly involved parents and adolescents.
Why is this research and information?

  • Healthy parent-child communications and inter-personal relationships can continue through the late teen years.
  • Parents think it is important to help guide their adolescent into young adulthood.

  • Researchers and government agencies have begun to recognize the importance of adolescent romantic relationship as precursors of healthy adult relationships and marriages (which affects the state of the nation).

  • This type of research affects relationship and skills building programs such as the Positive Youth Development programs offered through Make a Sound Choice. As we work to create communities in our region that encourage positive, healthy decision making among our youth and young adults, parents are vital to the in this mission to contribute to healthy futures. May you be encouraged in all you do!
Information taken from: “Parents’ Management of Romantic Relationships,” by Stephanie D. Madsen, McDaniel College, www.mcdaniel.edu link to article.

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